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There is hope after Infidelity or an Affair…

“In reflecting on marital issues in my practice as a marriage counselor, I’ve found that New Beginnings with Counselinginfidelity is one of the fastest growing concerns among people. Specializing in infidelity and affairs allows me to focus on really helping couples through very difficult times in their life.

“I’ve developed this website in order to help as many as couples as I can to resolve issues after infidelity and affairs.”

 Judith S. Barnett, Ph.D

If you have experienced the trauma of infidelity, don’t feel alone.

Statistics show over 70-80% of married couples struggle with this issue sometime during the course of their marriage.

Because of the shame and guilt associated with this issue it is hard to get support, advice, and help from your friends and relatives.

And yet without help, your odds are decreased of getting through the maze of recovery in the most expedient and constructive way. Sometimes, especially with this issue, help may need to come in the form of a professional specifically trained to help couples meet the challenges after infidelity and affairs.

Whether you call it cheating, having an affair, adultery, infidelity, or breaking your monogamy vows, it profoundly hurts people in committed relationships.

It is the single most hurtful and destructive thing that can occur in a marriage where monogamy is the stated goal. Because it is so devastating, it is quite often not handled very constructively in relationships. Infidelity does not have to mean an end to the relationship. In some cases, however, people may make that choice because they don’t know what the options are. And in some cases, the best option may be to end the relationship [e.g., where there are multiple affairs, no genuine remorse or plans for recovery] But for an overwhelming majority of cases of infidelity, not only can the relationship be saved but it can evolve into a stronger and more resilient and even more intimate relationship than before. However, this often requires some skillful facilitation from a therapist specifically trained in dealing with issues after infidelity occurs.

Why it is important to see a counselor who specializes in infidelity?

There is hope after Infidelity or an Affair.

Traditional marriage counseling training usually contains only a cursory overview of the issues and interventions required for a thorough treatment of infidelity.  A counselor treating couples struggling with this challenge needs to be specifically trained in a variety of treatment regimens for the myriad of infidelity issues that are involved.

Research has indicated that a couple is more likely to remain married if an extramarital affair is thoroughly explored and dealt with in a specific targeted manner.

Yet, almost 80% of couples in counseling said that their therapist mainly focused on general marital problems rather than the affair; and/or said that their therapist encouraged them to quickly cover highlights of the affair and then move on.  Most of these couples that I have interviewed report dissatisfaction with their counseling experience and very little resolution of their infidelity issues.

Keep this in mind, select your counselor carefully and inquire as to whether s/he has had specialty training. Also, infidelity is a very personal and sensitive topic to discuss even with a therapist.  Interview your prospective therapist and make sure that you are comfortable with their values and overall approach to infidelity.

And, I wish you a speedy and thorough recovery.

Judith Barnett, Marriage Counselor, specializes in
Infidelity & Affair counseling including many aspects such as:

  • The effects of infidelity after it occurs
  • Find out why people may feel they are not in love anymore and how to fall back in love.
  • How to notice signs of an affair and prevent infidelity.
  • Divorce Prevention
  • Online / Internet Infidelity
  • Communication Problems
  • Symptoms of Infidelity
  • Infidelity Intervention through Counseling
  • Recovery and healing for couples and individuals after infidelity

Judith Barnett
(919) 403-0400

Judith Barnett, Ph.D, Clinical Psychologist, Marriage Counselor & Infidelity Specialist in Chapel Hill, NC
20 Years Experience


Completed Externship in Emotionally Focused Therapy, June, 2011

Services Available:

-Certified Imago Relationship  Therapist & Marriage Counselor
-Individual Psychotherapy
-Marriage Counseling
-Relationship Counseling
-Imago Relationship Therapy
-Emotionally Focused Therapy for  couples: Completed Externship in  Emotionally Focused Therapy, June,  2011.
-Relationship Coaching
-Phone Consultations & Coaching  Sessions

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