Recommended Books

Agotti, Jennifer, Coping With Infidelity: Quick Start Guide to Surviving an Affair and Rebuilding Emotional Intimacy Apr 13, 2013

Alan , Richard, First Aid for the Betrayed, 2008

Alsaleem, Talal H LMFT, Infidelity: the Best Worst Thing that Could Happen to Your Marriage: The Complete Guide on How to Heal from Affairs Paperback – April 21, 2017

Arterburn,Stephen, Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back Paperback – August 19, 2014

Baisden, Michael, Never Satisfied: How & Why Men Cheat, 1995

Bercaw, Drs. Bill and Ginger , From the Living Room to the Bedroom: The Modern Couple’s Guide to Sexual Abundance and Lasting Intimacy – March 13, 2014

Bercht, Anne, (2004). My Husband’s Affair Became the BEST Thing That Ever Happened to Me. Victoria, BC, Canada: Trafford Publishing.

Brody , Michelle PhD, Stop the Fight!: An Illustrated Guide for Couples: How to Break Free from the 12 Most Common Arguments and Build a Relationship That Lasts, 2015

Brown, Emily M., (1999). Affairs: A Guide to Working Through the Repercussions of Infidelity,. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass.

Brown, Emily M., (2001) Patterns of Infidelity and Their Treatment, (Second Edition), New York: Brunner/Routledge.

Burns, Jim (Author), Fields, Doug (Author), Getting Ready for Marriage Workbook Paperback – February 1, 2015

Callander, Meryn G., After His Affair: Women Rising from the Ashes of Infidelity – November 4, 2014

Carder, Dave and Jaenicke, Duncan, Torn Asunder: Recovering From Extramarital Affairs, 2008

Carnes, P. (1991). Don’t Call It Love. Minneapolis, MN: CompCare Publishers.

Carnes, Patrick. Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction, Minneapolis: CompCare, 1983.

Carnes, Patrick. The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships, Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, 1997.

Chamberlain, Mark, Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity, Mar 9, 2011

Cheating Parents: Recovering From Parental Infidelity – January 28, 2014

Cheour, Dr. Marie and Luhtanenm, Daniel, Affair Recovery: Scientifically Proven Methods to Help you Heal and Forgive after Infidelity – Jan 2, 2016

Christo, Melissa, Overcoming Betrayal: How To Move Forward After Infidelity (Cheating Spouse and Overcoming Depression) Mar 20, 2014

Crys, Josephm How To Cope With Infidelity In Marriage: Recovering After An Affair (Marriage Issues Book 2), (Apr 29, 2014)

Davis, Tiffany, Trust Issues: Build Trust With A 15 Day Program 2015

Donovan, Craig, Porn Addiction: Cure for Porn Recovery – Treatment To Help You Overcome Porn Abuse (Porn Addiction Cure – Sex, Nov 25, 2014

Flanagan, Kelly, Loveable: Embracing What Is Truest About You, So You Can Truly Embrace Your Life Paperback – March 21, 2017

Glass, Shirley P. And Jean C. Staeheli (2003), Not ”Just Friends”, New York: The Free Press.

Gottman, John, The Man’s Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the Love Lab About What Women Really Want Hardcover – February 2, 2016

Gunther, Randi PhD, When Love Stumbles: How to Rediscover Love, Trust, and Fulfillment in your Relationship Paperback – June 2, 2011

Hall, Laurie, An Affair of the Mind: One Woman’s Courageous Battle to Salvage Her Family from the Devastation of Pornography

Haltzman, Scott, The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity, (Apr 23, 2013)

Hartley, Julia, Moore Infidelity: Exploding the Myths Paperback – January 14, 2014

James, John W. (Author), Friedman, Russell, The Grief Recovery Handbook, 20th Anniversary Expanded Edition: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses including Health, Career, and Faith Paperback – January 10, 2017

Kaplan, Janice, CanTransform Your Life Hardcover – August 18, 2015

Kaplan, Janice, The Gratitude Diaries: How a Year Looking on the Bright Side Can Transform Your Life Hardcover – August 18, 2015

Keith, Paterson, Infidelity in Marriage: A Complete Self-Help Guide to Rebuild Relationship & Recover from Pain: How to Rebuild, Apr 28, 2015

Keller, Samantha, Rekindle The Spark: In Your Marriage Or Relationship (Counselling tips, identify issues faced & Help guide) Feb 16, 2016

Kinnett , Loyd N., Beyond the Affair : The Healing of a Marriage, 2001

Kirshenbaum, Mira, I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship, 2012

Leal III, Bento C., 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work–Anywhere!: Including the “12-Day Communication Challenge!”, 2017 1st Edition

Lusterman, Don-David. Infidelity: A Survival Guide, Oakland, CA.: New Harbinger Publications,1998.

MacDonald, Linda J., How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair: A Compact Manual for the Unfaithful – 2010

Madden, Caroline, MFT, After a Good Man Cheats: How to Rebuild Trust & Intimacy With Your Wife, Paperback – December 12, 2014

Maheu, Marlene M. & Subotnik, Rona B. Infidelity on the Internet: Virtual Relationships and Real Betrayal. Naperville, IL.: Sourcebooks, Inc., 2001.

Marshall, Andrew, How Can I Ever Trust You Again?: Infidelity: From Discovery to Recovery in Seven Steps Mar 1, 2016

McCarthy, Barry, Sex Made Simple: Clinical Strategies for Sexual Issues in Therapy-2015

McLaery , Elaine and Mclaery, Mac, Affair Repair: Solving Self-Esteem Problems After Your Partner’s Infidelity 2016

Morningstar, Dana, Out of the Fog: Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse, Nov27, 2017

Ortman, Dennis, Cheating Parents: Recovering From Parental Infidelity Jan 28, 2014

Perel, Esther, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity Hardcover – October 10, 2017

Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists – July 5, 2016

Regier, Michael (Author), Paula Regier, Emotional Connection: The Story and Science of Preventing Conflict and Creating Lifetime Love Paperback – May 30, 2017

Robbins , Riki, Betrayed: How You Can Restore Sexual Trust and Rebuild Your Life, 1998

Rosenberg, Kenneth Paul, Infidelity: Why Men and Women Cheat, May 15, 2018

Schneider, Jennifer & Weiss, Robert. Cybersex Exposed: Simple Fantasy or Obsession? Center City, Minn.: Hazelden. 2001.

Schneider, Jennifer P M.D. by Corley, M. Deborah Ph.D., Surviving Disclosure: A Partner’s Guide for Healing the Betrayal of Intimate Trust Paperback – August 22, 2012

Schneider, Jennifer and M. Deborah, Ph.D. Corley, Disclosing Secrets: When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal

Skinner, Kevin B., Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal: The Essential Tools for Healing, Paperback March 11, 2017

Smedes, Lewis B. (1996). The Art of Forgiving. New York: Ballantine Books.

Snodgrass, Patti, Surviving Your Worst Nightmare: A Guide For the Betrayed – July 11, 2011

Snyder, Douglas K. PhD, Donald H. Baucom PhD and Kristina Coop Gordon PhD, Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On — Together or Apart by (Paperback – Jan 6, 2007)

Solomon, Marion and Tatkin, Stan, Love and War in Intimate Relationships: Connection, Disconnection, and Mutual Regulation in Couple Therapy (Norton…Apr 11, 2011)

Staheli, Lana, Affair-Proof Your Marriage: Understanding, Preventing and Surviving an Affair

Stark, Vikki. Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife’s Guide to Recovery and Renewal, (Feb 1, 2010).

Stone, Margaret, Before the Dust Settles (Advice from a Sex Addict’s Wife): 8 Mistakes to Avoid Immediately After Discovering Your, Jan 27, 2014

Subotnik, Rona & Harris, Gloria. Surviving infidelity: Making decisions, recovering from the pain. Holbrook, MA: Bob Adams Press, 1999.

Tatkin, Stan PsyD MFT and Hendrix Harville, PhD, Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build, Jan 2, 2012

Turkle, Sherry, Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other – October 2, 2012

Vaughan, Peggy (2003). The Monogamy Myth, Third Edition. New York: Newmarket Press.

Vaughan, Peggy. The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Recovering from Affairs. New York: Newmarket Press, 1998.

Vaughan, Peggy, The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Dealing with Affairs, 2003.

Weiner-Davis, Michele, Healing from Infidelity: The Divorce Busting® Guide to Rebuilding Your Marriage After an Affair Jan 27, 2017

Wilson, Gary and Jack, Anthony, Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction Feb 12, 2015

Wright, Judith EdD and Wright , Bob EdD, The Heart of the Fight: A Couple’s Guide to Fifteen Common Fights, What They Really Mean, and How They Can Bring, Feb 2, 2016

Wright, Sarah, Coping with Infidelity and Restoring Your Marriage Mar 1, 2014

There is more information available on this topic, if you still have questions not answered by this section please call me. I’m usually available within 24-48 hrs to answer questions, schedule phone coaching sessions or office coaching/therapy sessions, or direct you to other resources.

Judith Barnett
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Judith Barnett, Ph.D, Clinical Psychologist, Marriage Counselor & Infidelity Specialist in Chapel Hill, NC
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