Recommended Books

Agotti, Jennifer, Coping With Infidelity: Quick Start Guide to Surviving an Affair and Rebuilding Emotional Intimacy Apr 13, 2013

Alan , Richard, First Aid for the Betrayed

Baisden, Michael, Never Satisfied: How & Why Men Cheat

Bercaw, Drs. Bill and Ginger , From the Living Room to the Bedroom: The Modern Couple’s Guide to Sexual Abundance and Lasting Intimacy  – March 13, 2014

Bercht, Anne, (2004). My Husband’s Affair Became the BEST Thing That Ever Happened to Me. Victoria, BC, Canada: Trafford Publishing.

Brody , Michelle PhD, Stop the Fight!: An Illustrated Guide for Couples: How to Break Free from the 12 Most Common Arguments and Build a Relationship That Lasts. 2015 

Brown, Emily M., (1999). Affairs: A Guide to Working Through the Repercussions of Infidelity. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass.

Brown, Emily M., (2001) Patterns of Infidelity and Their Treatment, (Second Edition). New York: Brunner/Routledge.

Callander, Meryn G., After His Affair: Women Rising from the Ashes of Infidelity  – November 4, 2014

Dave Carder and Duncan Jaenicke, Torn Asunder: Recovering From Extramarital Affairs

Carnes, P. (1991). Don’t Call It Love. Minneapolis, MN: CompCare Publishers.

Carnes, Patrick. Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction. Minneapolis: CompCare, 1983.

Carnes, Patrick. The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, 1997.

Chamberlain, Mark, Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity Mar 9, 2011

Cheating Parents: Recovering From Parental Infidelity  – January 28, 2014 

Cheour, Dr. Marie and Luhtanenm, Daniel, Affair Recovery: Scientifically Proven Methods to Help you Heal and Forgive after Infidelity by – Jan 2, 2016

Christo, Melissa, Overcoming Betrayal: How To Move Forward After Infidelity (Cheating Spouse and Overcoming Depression) Mar 20, 2014 

Crys, Josephm How To Cope With Infidelity In Marriage: Recovering After An Affair (Marriage Issues Book 2), (Apr 29, 2014)

Dave Carder and Duncan Jaenicke, Torn Asunder: Recovering From Extramarital Affairs

Davis, Tiffany, Trust Issues: Build Trust With A 15 Day Program 2015

Donovan, Craig, Porn Addiction: Cure for Porn Recovery – Treatment To Help You Overcome Porn Abuse (Porn Addiction Cure – Sex, Nov 25, 2014 

Douglas K. Snyder PhD, Donald H. Baucom PhD and Kristina Coop Gordon PhD, Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On — Together or Apart Jan 6, 2007

Mark Chamberlain, PhD, Geoff Steurer and MS, Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity,  (Paperback – Mar 9, 2011).

Glass, Shirley P. And Jean C. Staeheli (2003). Not ”Just Friends”. New York: The Free Press.

Hall, Laurie, An Affair of the Mind: One Woman’s Courageous Battle to Salvage Her Family from the Devastation of Pornography

Haltzman, Scott, The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity, Apr 23, 2013

Hartley, Julia, Moore Infidelity: Exploding the Myths Paperback – January 14, 2014

Keith, Paterson, Infidelity in Marriage: A Complete Self-Help Guide to Rebuild Relationship & Recover from Pain: How to Rebuild, Apr 28, 2015  

Keller, Samantha, Rekindle The Spark: In Your Marriage Or Relationship (Counselling tips, identify issues faced & Help guide) Feb 16, 2016 

Kinnett , Loyd N., Beyond the Affair : The Healing of a Marriage

Kirshenbaum, Mira, I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship

Lusterman, Don-David. Infidelity: A Survival Guide. Oakland, CA.: New Harbinger Publications,1998.

MacDonald,  Linda J., How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair: A Compact Manual for the Unfaithful – 2010

Madden, Caroline, MFT, After a Good Man Cheats: How to Rebuild Trust & Intimacy With Your Wife Paperback – December 12, 2014

Maheu, Marlene M. & Subotnik, Rona B. Infidelity on the Internet: Virtual Relationships and Real Betrayal. Naperville, IL.: Sourcebooks, Inc., 2001.

Marshall, Andrew, How Can I Ever Trust You Again?: Infidelity: From Discovery to Recovery in Seven Steps  Mar 1, 2016 

McCarthy, Barry, Sex Made Simple: Clinical Strategies for Sexual Issues in Therapy -2015

McLaery , Elaine and Mclaery, Mac, Affair Repair: Solving Self-Esteem Problems After Your Partner’s Infidelity 2016

Douglas K. Snyder PhD, Donald H. Baucom PhD and Kristina Coop Gordon PhD, Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On — Together or Apart by  (Paperback – Jan 6, 2007)

Robbins , Riki, Betrayed: How You Can Restore Sexual Trust and Rebuild Your Life

Haltzman, Scott, The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity,  (Apr 23, 2013)

Schneider, Jennifer P. Back from betrayal: A ground-breaking guide to recovery for women involved with sex-addicted men. New York: Ballantine Books, 1988.

Schneider, Jennifer P. & Schneider, Burt. Sex, lies, and forgiveness: Couples speaking on healing from sex addiction. Tucson, AZ.: Recovery Resources Press, 1999.

Schneider, Jennifer & Weiss, Robert. Cybersex Exposed: Simple Fantasy or Obsession? Center City, Minn.: Hazelden. 2001.

Smedes, Lewis B. (1996). The Art of Forgiving. New York: Ballantine Books.

Snodgrass, Patti, Surviving Your Worst Nightmare: A Guide For the Betrayed  – July 11, 2011

Snyder, Douglas, PhD et al. Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On — Together or Apart . The Guildford Press, 2007

Solomon, Marion and  Tatkin, Stan, Love and War in Intimate Relationships: Connection, Disconnection, and Mutual Regulation in Couple Therapy (Norton…Apr 11, 2011)

Schneider, Jennifer P  M.D. by Corley, M. Deborah Ph.D., Surviving Disclosure: A Partner’s Guide for Healing the Betrayal of Intimate Trust Paperback – August 22, 2012  

Jennifer Schneider and M. Deborah, Ph.D. Corley, Disclosing Secrets: When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal

Spring, Janis Abrahms. (1996). After the Affair. New York: HarperCollins.

Spring, Janis Abrahms & Spring, Michael. After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful. New York: HarperCollins, 1997.

Spring, Janis A, After the Affair: Healing the Pain and …2nd Edition 2012

Staheli,  Lana, Affair-Proof Your Marriage: Understanding, Preventing and Surviving an Affair

Douglas K. Snyder, Donald H. Baucom, Kristina Coop Gordon , Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On — Together or Apart

Stark, Vikki. Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife’s Guide to Recovery and Renewal, (Feb 1, 2010).

Stone, Margaret, Before the Dust Settles (Advice from a Sex Addict’s Wife): 8 Mistakes to Avoid Immediately After Discovering Your, Jan 27, 2014  

Subotnik, Rona & Harris, Gloria. Surviving infidelity: Making decisions, recovering from the pain. Holbrook, MA: Bob Adams Press, 1999.

Tatkin, Stan PsyD MFT and Hendrix Harville, PhD, Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build, Jan 2, 2012 

Turkle, Sherry, Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other  – October 2, 2012

Vaughan, Peggy (2003). The Monogamy Myth, Third Edition. New York: Newmarket Press.

Vaughan, Peggy. The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Recovering from Affairs. New York: Newmarket Press, 1998.

Vaughan, Peggy, The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Dealing with Affairs, 2003.

Wilson, Gary and  Jack, Anthony, Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction Feb 12, 2015

Wright, Judith EdD and  Wright , Bob EdD, The Heart of the Fight: A Couple’s Guide to Fifteen Common Fights, What They Really Mean, and How They Can Bring, Feb 2, 2016 

Wright, Sarah, Coping with Infidelity and Restoring Your Marriage Mar 1, 2014

There is more information available on this topic, if you still have questions not answered by this section please call me. I’m usually available within 24-48 hrs to answer questions, schedule phone coaching sessions or office coaching/therapy sessions, or direct you to other resources.


Judith Barnett
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