Recommended Books

Alan , Richard, First Aid for the Betrayed

Baisden, Michael, Never Satisfied: How & Why Men Cheat

Bercht, Anne, (2004). My Husband’s Affair Became the BEST Thing That Ever Happened to Me. Victoria, BC, Canada: Trafford Publishing.

Brown, Emily M., (1999). Affairs: A Guide to Working Through the Repercussions of Infidelity. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass.

Brown, Emily M., (2001) Patterns of Infidelity and Their Treatment, (Second Edition). New York: Brunner/Routledge.

Dave Carder and Duncan Jaenicke, Torn Asunder: Recovering From Extramarital Affairs

Carnes, P. (1991). Don’t Call It Love. Minneapolis, MN: CompCare Publishers.

Carnes, Patrick. Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction. Minneapolis: CompCare, 1983.

Carnes, Patrick. The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, 1997.

Mark Chamberlain, PhD, Geoff Steurer and MS, Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity,  (Paperback - Mar 9, 2011).

Glass, Shirley P. And Jean C. Staeheli (2003). Not ”Just Friends”. New York: The Free Press.

Hall, Laurie, An Affair of the Mind: One Woman’s Courageous Battle to Salvage Her Family from the Devastation of Pornography

Haltzman, Scott, The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity, Apr 23, 2013

Kinnett , Loyd N., Beyond the Affair : The Healing of a Marriage

Kirshenbaum, Mira, I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship

Lusterman, Don-David. Infidelity: A Survival Guide. Oakland, CA.: New Harbinger Publications,1998.

Maheu, Marlene M. & Subotnik, Rona B. Infidelity on the Internet: Virtual Relationships and Real Betrayal. Naperville, IL.: Sourcebooks, Inc., 2001.

Douglas K. Snyder PhD, Donald H. Baucom PhD and Kristina Coop Gordon PhD, Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On — Together or Apart by  (Paperback - Jan 6, 2007)

Robbins , Riki, Betrayed: How You Can Restore Sexual Trust and Rebuild Your Life

Haltzman, Scott, The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity,  (Apr 23, 2013)

Schneider, Jennifer P. Back from betrayal: A ground-breaking guide to recovery for women involved with sex-addicted men. New York: Ballantine Books, 1988.

Schneider, Jennifer P. & Schneider, Burt. Sex, lies, and forgiveness: Couples speaking on healing from sex addiction. Tucson, AZ.: Recovery Resources Press, 1999.

Schneider, Jennifer & Weiss, Robert. Cybersex Exposed: Simple Fantasy or Obsession? Center City, Minn.: Hazelden. 2001.

Smedes, Lewis B. (1996). The Art of Forgiving. New York: Ballantine Books.

Snyder, Douglas, PhD et al. Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On — Together or Apart . The Guildford Press, 2007

Jennifer Schneider and M. Deborah, Ph.D. Corley, Disclosing Secrets: When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal

Spring, Janis Abrahms. (1996). After the Affair. New York: HarperCollins.

Spring, Janis Abrahms & Spring, Michael. After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful. New York: HarperCollins, 1997.

Spring, Janis A, After the Affair: Healing the Pain and …2nd Edition 2012

Staheli,  Lana, Affair-Proof Your Marriage: Understanding, Preventing and Surviving an Affair

Douglas K. Snyder, Donald H. Baucom, Kristina Coop Gordon , Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On — Together or Apart

Stark, Vikki. Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife’s Guide to Recovery and Renewal, (Feb 1, 2010).

Subotnik, Rona & Harris, Gloria. Surviving infidelity: Making decisions, recovering from the pain. Holbrook, MA: Bob Adams Press, 1999.

Vaughan, Peggy (2003). The Monogamy Myth, Third Edition. New York: Newmarket Press.

Vaughan, Peggy. The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Recovering from Affairs. New York: Newmarket Press, 1998.

Vaughan, Peggy, The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Dealing with Affairs, 2003.

There is more information available on this topic, if you still have questions not answered by this section please call me. I’m usually available within 24-48 hrs to answer questions, schedule phone coaching sessions or office coaching/therapy sessions, or direct you to other resources.

Judith Barnett
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Judith Barnett, Ph.D, Clinical Psychologist, Marriage Counselor & Infidelity Specialist in Chapel Hill, NC
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